A lemur says what?

mudflap · Post by **mudflap** » Mon Apr 18, 2005 9:29 pm

I had to share this:

in other news i met a nice boy and he makes me feel all gooshy inside.

Post by **miftah** » Mon Apr 18, 2005 9:38 pm

Congratulations on the gushiness. I love lemurs. They rule. Especially this one.

Post by **eddiecanuck** » Mon Apr 18, 2005 9:54 pm

SWEET. That's frikken awsome. Both parts.

Painted · Post by **Painted** » Mon Apr 18, 2005 10:16 pm

Kinda scary...but cool. Like the eyes....good job on the guishyness.

mudflap · Post by **mudflap** » Mon Apr 18, 2005 10:28 pm

The only thing is...

I am really not good at the whole 'i like you do you like me' thing....truth be told, i'm bad...oh so bad at it.

So...i've known him for about 2 weeks, we get along - went to lunch today along with my boss/manager/whatever i call him now - had a fantastic time - laughed my ass off - almost got kicked out of Red Robin - talked about movies a bit, ended up talking about Aileen Wuornos and I told him that I'd lend him the documentary (which btw, if you haven't seen, i highly recommend) - so i'm going to drop that off tomorrow.....

he's also a pilot and my boss said that he should take me for a ride, but we just kinda left it dangling...so - i can use that to talk about and *maybe* work up enough courage to ask him about...here's my question - do i ask him in the "hey, so when are you going to take me flying?" light and flirty way or do i go the "i'd love to go flying with you some day"....seriously guys - I am so bad about this.

what's the best way to let a guy know that you're interested (besides jumping on him) - keep in mind that while i'm brazen and ballsy in every other area of my life - when it comes to guys i am a complete wuss....

i gotta tell ya...i get all rubbery and gooshy and stupidly schoolgirl like when i'm around him. literally a 'you make me weak in the knees' kind of attraction here....i am so completely smitten....

sigh

Post by **miftah** » Mon Apr 18, 2005 11:07 pm

Confidence. Confidence. Confidence.

Without a doubt there will be a long collection of disagreements below my reply, but I will tell you that men want to feel as though they've won something. If a girl is handed to them too easily, they get the impression that you make yourself available to just anyone. Best to let him feel like he's earned you. Even if you don't think he's interested.

Guys will deny this, because they don't like to admit they're wired so simply, but really its not much more complex than this.

By confidence, what I mean is that you should take your time and let this thing develop organically. After all, you're an attractive girl and you are not desperate. Find a way to put yourself at ease with him and wait for it to occur to him what is possible with you.

Making yourself available without spelling it out means making lots of eye contact and making *brief* and glancing touches, like to the shoulder or the side of the arm gently and naturally. Don't leer but be looking for something in the back of his eyes. It will subconsciously tell him you're expecting something from him and if the questions in there, he'll reach for it and ask you.

Conversely if you want to know if a woman's interested in you, act natural and lick your lips while making eye contact. If she maintains the eye contact, then she's interested.

Sure others will tell you differently, but these are the devices that have captured me again and again. And my experience (and there's a lot of it) tells me these observations are true.

AsaJay · Post by **AsaJay** » Wed Apr 20, 2005 6:02 am

I think I'd side with Miftah on this one. I think he's spot on. You have to be careful not to show too much interest too soon, but temper it with enough to keep him hooked. I like the techniques that he laid out.

Good luck.

Post by **eddiecanuck** » Wed Apr 20, 2005 9:51 am

you know, it's funny this topic comes up as I was watching Scrubs last night and this very situation was played out. The doctor gal was smitten with this guy but too shy to do anything about it. She turned to one of the other guy docs for advice and he gave basically the same advice miftah did. Yes it's just a sitcom but it was interesting that he explained it a lot like miftah did. I do agree that if you come on too strong he may become disinterested (is that even a word?).

Sorry, just thought I'd throw that in there.

mudflap · Post by **mudflap** » Wed Apr 20, 2005 10:15 am

Yeah, you're all correct....

(btw - I saw that scrubs too! If I was Elliot hot, I don't think I'd be nearly as self concious as I am tho:))

I emailed him to let him know that i was switching offices today and said that if he didn't have lunch plans, he should swing by around then and we could go get something to eat....

I am seriously gooshy here....I got it bad