How to lose trust
Posted: Sun Apr 24, 2005 2:02 am
Ok, just to tell you this story is seriously not about me. This story is about a friend who has very difficult parents.....key word parents...that's plural...if it was about me there would only be one parent.
My friend and her boyfriend are starting to get serious. Their anniversary is this month. She got on birth control just in case. And her dad said that if she ever wanted to she should go talk to him. So she told him...and he was ok with it. Her mom didn't know about it yet. Well she has been on it about a week and decided she would tell her mom. So she talks to her mom and at first her mom storms out of the room. Her dad was sitting there. Well about 20 min. later they start to talk. And her mom says you can't do this (meaning sex). So it gets all heated and everything and her dad says...we'll talk about it tommorow when we've had 24hrs. to cool down. Well he says...I don't want you going over to your b/f's house...and if you get an attitude about it then you will be banned from seeing him ever again and we will send you down to my mom's house (in Missouri) for the summer. He started getting angry...and agreeing with her mom, but it wasn't like that when just he knew. They also said, "You are 16, we still control you." That is when I personally would have said, "Well if you were good parents you "guide" me and not control me. Well I think that by the parent saying that then they have lost all respect, and trust. They plan out everything for her. And they never let her come over to my house because it is the "smoke farm". I think that her mom will get a reality check coming up soon. Her mom doesn't like me and says I am a bad influence. I am the one who told her to think things through for a little while before she made the decision. Anyway....her mom said that she doesn't know if they get to spend their one year anniversary together (this was before the birth control thing) and that she isn't going to supervise them and if her sister won't then fine. Well my friend says that she is going anyway...so what I am going to do, even though this will make me worse of an enemy...I am gonna drive her and her b/f out if they need it. I think that they should be able to spend their one year together. Also I don't think I could become a bigger enemy until the next time I see her parents...cause it will be very hard to not voice my opinion. I think that they should have been reasonable and said that it was her choice but they would rather see her safe than sorry, and that she was going to have to live with any consequences.
*Edit* Thoughts wanted
My friend and her boyfriend are starting to get serious. Their anniversary is this month. She got on birth control just in case. And her dad said that if she ever wanted to she should go talk to him. So she told him...and he was ok with it. Her mom didn't know about it yet. Well she has been on it about a week and decided she would tell her mom. So she talks to her mom and at first her mom storms out of the room. Her dad was sitting there. Well about 20 min. later they start to talk. And her mom says you can't do this (meaning sex). So it gets all heated and everything and her dad says...we'll talk about it tommorow when we've had 24hrs. to cool down. Well he says...I don't want you going over to your b/f's house...and if you get an attitude about it then you will be banned from seeing him ever again and we will send you down to my mom's house (in Missouri) for the summer. He started getting angry...and agreeing with her mom, but it wasn't like that when just he knew. They also said, "You are 16, we still control you." That is when I personally would have said, "Well if you were good parents you "guide" me and not control me. Well I think that by the parent saying that then they have lost all respect, and trust. They plan out everything for her. And they never let her come over to my house because it is the "smoke farm". I think that her mom will get a reality check coming up soon. Her mom doesn't like me and says I am a bad influence. I am the one who told her to think things through for a little while before she made the decision. Anyway....her mom said that she doesn't know if they get to spend their one year anniversary together (this was before the birth control thing) and that she isn't going to supervise them and if her sister won't then fine. Well my friend says that she is going anyway...so what I am going to do, even though this will make me worse of an enemy...I am gonna drive her and her b/f out if they need it. I think that they should be able to spend their one year together. Also I don't think I could become a bigger enemy until the next time I see her parents...cause it will be very hard to not voice my opinion. I think that they should have been reasonable and said that it was her choice but they would rather see her safe than sorry, and that she was going to have to live with any consequences.
*Edit* Thoughts wanted
Jk.