No Support

Painted · Post by **Painted** » Mon Aug 29, 2005 7:31 pm

Somebody very close to me has hurt me tonight. I work so hard to get the money I have, and it all goes away in an instant because of my car and everything that goes with it. Plus I buy my own clothes. Well I was talking to this person and they blame me for having to have a car to go to school and be able to get to work on time. They don't congratulate me that I stepped up to responsibility and started paying some of my own bills. Or say they are proud of me. Actually I don't hear very many things that are supportive from this person. Instead they tell me that it is basically my fault we have to be to school at the time we do. They make it sound like I can't hold money in my wallet. No I can't damnit, I have expenses. I am so tempted to just tell them to get off their lazy ass and get a job, because then they will know what it feels like. What would you do in a situation like this. I will take critizism (SP?) gladly...I know it might be just me.

Post by **miftah** » Mon Aug 29, 2005 8:31 pm

Not with a 10,000 foot pole.

It sounds like you're already well-aware of your strengths and the other person's weaknesses. You don't really need us to validate any of this do you?

Painted · Post by **Painted** » Mon Aug 29, 2005 8:54 pm

I know it is not my fault that my schedule is like that. But this person has had a lot of time with me taken away. Do you think this is why they are acting this way? What would you say to a person that acted like this?

dribbles · Post by **dribbles** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 6:01 am

- again this is the problem with wimmen. can't understand a damn word. fo' sho' translate ^^^^^^ into english a put your greivances into a well thoughtout speech. as with the ^^^^^ you wont get any feedback atall as the male population cannot understand this.

: insert nodding (like noddy) and the words "sorry" 50000+ times. works like a charm.:

Painted · Post by **Painted** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 6:51 am

I actually don't think that is a problem with women. We can understand what you say, we just want to understand the reason behind it. I don't think men are actually that dense. I think they choose to act like they don't understand things so they don't have to deal with a problem. And when women want to hear sorry, well at least most women I know...they want the man or whoever to mean it.

Rocketdork · Post by **Rocketdork** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 7:29 am

The reason behind things is a very difficult situation between my Sig Other and I...

Not only do I have to do certain things...the reason I do them has to be right too...a good example, I vacuum the living room, I should be vaccuming the living room because the carpet is messy, not because a friend is coming over.

I contend that it doesn't matter WHY, only that its being done...

bugfreezer · Post by **bugfreezer** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 8:15 pm

A couple whaps upside the head with a heavy object might let a bit of wisdom in....

Just a suggestion.

Painted · Post by **Painted** » Tue Aug 30, 2005 9:13 pm

Thanks. Problem solved though. Could you imagine what a little talking can do. I just had to let him think a little bit.